St Michael and All Angels, Mickleham, Surrey
Thank you for expressing an interest in getting married at St Michael & All Angels Church, our historic Norman building. Every wedding is “unique” and we will do all we can to make your wedding day a very special occasion for you and your guests.
There are certain things that must happen in a church wedding to ensure the marriage complies with both UK civil and church law.
In marriage you take on a whole new legal status. The Incumbent (Parish Priest) knows how to advise and prepare you for your wedding day and everything must comply with all relevant UK and Church of England laws. These are the main legal points to consider before you begin planning:-
You must be old enough
If you are under 18 years old you will need your parents’ consent to marry and by law you cannot be married in the UK until you are 16.
Changes to same-sex marriage legislation
Although same sex-marriage legislation is now in force, it remains the case that it is not legally possible for same-sex couples to marry in the Church of England.
Marrying away from where you live
It’s possible to get married in a church that’s away from where you live if you have a certain kind of connection with it. You may be legally connected to a number of churches in different ways in what is called a “Qualifying Connection”, and these are listed below. Contact our Parish Priest if you would like further information:
I wish to rely in a connection with the Parish by virtue of one or more of the following:
1 I was baptised in the parish (by a Church of England service/form of baptism)
2 I have been confirmed (by a Church of England service) and my confirmation is entered in a register belonging to a church or chapel in the parish
3 My parent or grandparent was married in the parish by a Church of England service
4 I have had my usual place of residence in the parish for at least six months. This can apply whether or not you are still resident in the parish
5 My parent has had his or her usual place of residence in the parish for at least six months during my lifetime. This can apply whether or not your parent(s) are still resident in the parish
6 I have habitually attended public worship at Church of England services in the parish for at least six months. This can apply whether or not you are still attending worship in the parish
7 My parent has habitually attended public worship at Church of England services in the parish for at least six months during my lifetime. This can apply whether or not your parent(s) are still attending worship in the parish
Time of wedding
The wedding must take place between 8am and 6pm on any day.
Guidelines for divorcees
There are special guidelines on marriage in the church if you are divorced. There may well be a way forward, but you will need to talk to our Parish Priest about your situation to explore the possibilities.
Reading of Banns
Most Church of England marriages will require banns to be published before the wedding can take place. You won’t need to arrange banns until about four months before the date of your wedding.
If there is not enough notice given for the banns to be read before the marriage is due to take place, or in the case of the marriage of people who are not nationals of a country within the European Economic Area, or if one or both of you does not live in England or Wales, it is recommended that the Licence procedure be used rather than banns.
There are some circumstances in which you may need a Special Licence, Common Licence or a Superintendent Registrar’s Certificate to marry in church. Our Parish Priest will let you know if these apply to you.
What if we already have children?
We welcome enquiries from couples who already have children.
How much will it cost?
The statutory wedding fee for 2017 is £452 but this does not include an optional extras such as organist, choir, bells and heating.
Documents you’ll need
All couples will need to show the Parish Priest their passport as proof of nationality. If you don’t have a passport, there are other documents which would be acceptable, so ask about this.
If either or both of you are divorced, you will need to bring your decree absolute for the Parish Priest to see.
You may also be asked to provide evidence of your connection to the church, such as utility bills which show you live or have lived in the parish, or your parents’ marriage certificate if they were married there, for example. Our Parish Priest will guide you on acceptable documents for your particular connection.